Capable Moms Club - Raising Capable Kids and Having Fun Doing It!
Our Mission:

Our mission is to educate, motivate, inspire and emotionally touch parents and children's lives, especialyy moms, in ways that change the direction of hearts, breathe new excitement, energy and confidence into both moms and children, and create a better world.

Cognitive neuropsychologists tell us that all people, young and old, are affected by “expectancy theory.” Expectancy theory is explained like this: If your mind expects something to happen, it will. We see what we want to see. We experience what we believe we will experience. Capables™ create an expectancy in our children that they can succeed.

More than ever before, moms need a cost effective, time concise, fun solution that gives them effective tools to interact with their kids while imparting critical life, social and success skills.

Children are bombarded with influences in their lives that expose them to a plethora of negative images. Experts tell us that because of television, children will witness hundreds, if not thousands of murders before they reach the tender age of four. And by six-years-old, most children will have spent more time watching television than they will spend talking to their fathers their entire lifetimes. Sadly the only vision in some children’s lives is television.

The divorce rate is currently hovering around the 50% mark. Remotes are glued to their owner’s hands, while marriages are too easily coming undone. By using The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ to educate and inspire their children, parents can bring their relationship and family priorities back into focus. Husbands and wives need fun, playful ways to keep the spark of passion ignited in their relationships while learning to better understand one another’s points of view.

Children need to feel loved, connected, accomplished and valuable. Their values and emotional and social life skills do not come as standard equipment at birth. Therefore they must be taught. Most parents desperately love their children and want nothing but the best for them All. Too often, in the name of love, parents give their children the exact opposite of what they need to excel in life.

Individuals need a simple way to remind them of the discipline, character, passion and focus necessary to make their dreams come true. The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ helps support and guide thoughts, choices and actions in ways that have the potential to guarantee more successful outcomes for everyone.

Dawn L. Billings: Founder of The Capables

Growing up as a poor child in a small town in Oklahoma I didn’t know how poor I was until my first day of school. I didn’t know that everyone else in my class had indoor plumbing. They didn’t use an out house and didn’t take turns taking a bath in a number three wash tub that required the water be heated on the stove. I didn’t know that some people only had to turn on a faucet and they had hot water at their fingertips. Something most everyone in this country takes for granted everyday, would have felt like a miracle to me then.

My father and mother were raised in a very difficult time under very difficult circumstances. My mother’s father died in the middle of the Great Depression with seven cents in his pocket as his fifth baby turned five days old. My grandmother stood up that day, and with nothing but guts, grit and determination, raised five children by herself with no education and no opportunities. My father was the middle child of eight. One of his younger brothers was tragically killed when he was just a little boy and neither my father, nor his mother, were ever the same. Life was hard, very hard. We were hungry and didn’t have even the basic necessities, but I was the first born child and my mother named me Dawn because she was determined that I was going to be the beginning of a new legacy, a legacy of hope, inspiration, education and success.

When I was five-years-old she bought a book at a garage sale for a nickel. It was entitled Wisdom of the Mystic Masters, by Robert Collier and it was filled with positive poetry and stories about the power of your thoughts and the importance of your character and beliefs. My mother and I read from this book many times, memorized the positive poetry and learned to dream great dreams.

Research and Theory behind the CAPABLES:

Mark Greenberg, PhD., Director of The Prevention Research Center for the Promotion of Human Development at Penn State (The Prevention Center aims to promote the well-being of children and youth and to reduce the prevalence of high risk behaviors and poor outcomes for children, families and communities and can be found at http://www.prevention.psu.edu), tells us that “self-regulation abilities are the prerequisite for acting responsibly”.

A child’s capacity to be Accountable and Responsible are vital components to success in their lives.  Moral teachings alone, like character counts programs, are not enough. Developing the skills to follow through are equally as important. The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ is specifically designed to maximize the utilization of this critical development window in children.

During this critical developmental window there are vast numbers of connections being made between the frontal lobe and the other portions of the brain. Both, language centers and the emotion centers of the brain are developing as well. The frontal lobe is the executive that integrates emotion, reasoning, language aspects, and makes decisions based on all those characteristics, and then sends it to the motor neurons for action. It's the least genetically determined part of our self and therefore, the most likely to be modified by parental influence, what we learn and what we experience. Families, schools, peer relations, the nature of our communities, etc., all help to shape the frontal lobe's development. The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ can help children grow emotionally and blossom during this critical developmental window.

In his book Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman explains that from his perspective, emotional intelligence is concerned with two basic areas in a person’s life: personal competence, which determines how we manage ourselves, and social competence, which determines how we manage relationships. These skills are paramount to creating successful relationships both personally and professionally.

Researchers tell us that the amount of positive emotions like joy, love, tenderness, and accomplishment are critical to establishing the correct brain pathways in our children. Our children need to have opportunities to focus on these positive emotions much more than negative emotions. Research also tells us that what we attend to, pay attention to, or focus on becomes our reality, and what we don’t attend to or focus on fades out of our reality.

The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ helps children and their parents to focus on a child’s capacity for making great choices instead of focusing on their misbehavior and outbursts of negative emotion.