Our mission is to educate, motivate, inspire and emotionally touch parents and children's lives, especialyy moms, in ways that change
the direction of hearts, breathe new excitement, energy and confidence into both moms and children, and create a better world.
Cognitive neuropsychologists tell us that
all people, young and old, are affected by “expectancy theory.” Expectancy theory is
explained like this: If your mind expects something to happen, it will. We see what we want
to see. We experience what we believe we will experience. Capables™ create an expectancy in
our children that they can succeed.
More than ever before, moms need a cost effective, time concise, fun solution that gives
them effective tools to interact with their kids while imparting critical life, social and
Children are bombarded with influences in their lives that expose them to a
plethora of negative images. Experts tell us that because of television, children will
witness hundreds, if not thousands of murders before they reach the tender age of four. And
by six-years-old, most children will have spent more time watching television than they will
spend talking to their fathers their entire lifetimes. Sadly the only vision in some
children’s lives is television.
The divorce rate is currently hovering around the 50% mark. Remotes are glued to their
owner’s hands, while marriages are too easily coming undone. By using The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ to educate and inspire their children,
parents can bring their relationship and family priorities back into focus. Husbands and
wives need fun, playful ways to keep the spark of passion ignited in their relationships
while learning to better understand one another’s points of view.
Children need to feel loved, connected, accomplished and valuable. Their values and
emotional and social life skills do not come as standard equipment at birth. Therefore they
must be taught. Most parents desperately love their children and want nothing but the best
for them All. Too often, in the name of love, parents give their children the exact opposite
of what they need to excel in life.
Individuals need a simple way to remind them of the
discipline, character, passion and focus necessary to make their dreams come true. The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ helps support and guide
thoughts, choices and actions in ways that have the potential to guarantee more successful
outcomes for everyone.
Dawn L. Billings: Founder of The Capables
Growing up as a poor child in a small town in Oklahoma I didn’t know how poor I was until my
first day of school. I didn’t know that everyone else in my class had indoor plumbing. They
didn’t use an out house and didn’t take turns taking a bath in a number three wash tub that
required the water be heated on the stove. I didn’t know that some people only had to turn
on a faucet and they had hot water at their fingertips. Something most everyone in this
country takes for granted everyday, would have felt like a miracle to me then.
My father and mother were raised in a very difficult time under very difficult
circumstances. My mother’s father died in the middle of the Great Depression with seven
cents in his pocket as his fifth baby turned five days old. My grandmother stood up that
day, and with nothing but guts, grit and determination, raised five children by herself with
no education and no opportunities. My father was the middle child of eight. One of his
younger brothers was tragically killed when he was just a little boy and neither my father,
nor his mother, were ever the same. Life was hard, very hard. We were hungry and didn’t have
even the basic necessities, but I was the first born child and my mother named me Dawn
because she was determined that I was going to be the beginning of a new legacy, a legacy of
hope, inspiration, education and success.
When I was five-years-old she bought a book at a
garage sale for a nickel. It was entitled Wisdom of the Mystic Masters, by Robert
Collier and it was filled with positive poetry and stories about the power of your thoughts
and the importance of your character and beliefs. My mother and I read from this book many
times, memorized the positive poetry and learned to dream great dreams.
Research and Theory behind the CAPABLES: Mark Greenberg, PhD., Director of The Prevention Research Center for the Promotion of Human
Development at Penn State (The Prevention Center aims to promote the well-being of children
and youth and to reduce the prevalence of high risk behaviors and poor outcomes for
children, families and communities and can be found at http://www.prevention.psu.edu), tells us that
“self-regulation abilities are the prerequisite for acting responsibly”.
capacity to be Accountable and Responsible are vital components to success in their
lives. Moral teachings alone, like character counts programs, are not enough.
Developing the skills to follow through are equally as important. The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ is
specifically designed to maximize the utilization of this critical development window in
During this critical developmental window there are vast numbers of connections
being made between the frontal lobe and the other portions of the brain. Both, language
centers and the emotion centers of the brain are developing as well. The frontal lobe is the
executive that integrates emotion, reasoning, language aspects, and makes decisions based on
all those characteristics, and then sends it to the motor neurons for action. It's the least
genetically determined part of our self and therefore, the most likely to be modified by
parental influence, what we learn and what we experience. Families, schools, peer relations,
the nature of our communities, etc., all help to shape the frontal lobe's development. The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ can help
children grow emotionally and blossom during this critical developmental window.
In his book Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence,
Daniel Goleman explains that from his perspective, emotional intelligence is concerned with
two basic areas in a person’s life: personal competence, which determines how we manage
ourselves, and social competence, which determines how we manage relationships. These skills
are paramount to creating successful relationships both personally and professionally.
Researchers tell us that the amount of positive emotions like joy, love, tenderness, and
accomplishment are critical to establishing the correct brain pathways in our children. Our
children need to have opportunities to focus on these positive emotions much more than
Research also tells us that what we attend to, pay attention to, or focus on becomes our
reality, and what we don’t attend to or focus on fades out of our reality.
The CAPABLES Parent Tool & Child Development System™ helps children and their parents to
focus on a child’s capacity for making great choices instead of focusing on their
misbehavior and outbursts of negative emotion.